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Kylie Roman

Everything I write, I take from my own life experiences. So if you read the Little Fat Book trilogy, you'll actually come to know me really well. Essentially, I’m Cora – but without the secret tell...mehr sehenEverything I write, I take from my own life experiences. So if you read the Little Fat Book trilogy, you'll actually come to know me really well. Essentially, I’m Cora – but without the secret tell-all sex blog! I live on the East Coast, teach, and am a kick-ass single mama to a now five year-old boy, who’s named after a figure from medieval lore. My real first name is Kyla. Kylie’s a nickname used to differentiate me from a relative who had the same name. In the Ashkenazi Jewish tradition, we name our children after deceased relatives. I was named after my mother’s favorite and only sister, Kyla. I’m telling you this for a reason. As you'll read in the LFBs, I come from a line of strong women. Women who aren’t afraid to buck tradition. Women who aren’t afraid to be themselves. And when it comes to my books, I always like to note that I come from a line of women who aren’t ashamed to be fat. Unfortunately, that’s where I break tradition. I’ve always been fat. But until recently, I’ve been not proud, but ashamed of my body, and therefore of myself. Like Cora, I grew up near San Jose, California. People are extremely competitive there, and looks matter. Like most teen girls, I wanted to fit in. So although my family gave me a strong foundation, my teens and early twenties were plagued by self-doubt. When an unexpected pregnancy led to complications, the stress of being a young mother led to depression and further weight gain. I lost confidence in myself. It was one of the lowest points of my life. Troubled, I turned to writing. And Little Fat Book spilled out. I think the reason the trilogy resonates with women and fat admirers, is because it’s written by a real fat woman. Even though I wrote LFB as BBW erotica, I didn’t write to fetishize bigger women, or treat them as sex objects. Instead, I wrote to imagine how fat women – rather, those fat women who struggled to value themselves in a thin-centric world – could become the subjects, the heroines, of their own stories. And in doing so, I became my own heroine. I became my own subject. I’d always wanted to write a book, and I did. I always wanted to be published, and I was. Writing made me see I had value. Writing healed me. Writing also made me realize the body positive, self-love world I wanted to live in could exist. Simply creating my vision of a path to body positive utopia helped me envision feminist liberation. And by sharing LFB with the world, making it part of erotica, part of our discourse on fat bodies and fat sex, part of a vision of a better physical psychology – I hope I’ve helped you envision a better, brighter world, too. Through LFB, I’ve learned the same lesson Cora did: that self-esteem comes only from within. Haters gonna hate, as they say (as we see in Book Two). At least Cora has a lot of fun coming along the way. [Wink wink.] As she did, she saw herself through different eyes: the eyes of the people who loved her for who she was. And that idea is the crux of these books. LFB is my love letter to myself. And it’s my love letter to fat girls everywhere who have been shamed into doubting their value, too. So let me put this out into the universe: Women of all shapes, colors, bodies, sizes: we are valuable. We are loved. And we are perfect, and sexy, as we are. We should never forget that, no matter the shame damaged people try send our way. I started trying to write my bio. But this message seems more important. You are beautiful. You are loved. When you read LFB, I hope that message shines through. I hope it permeates your body, lets you love yourself, as I have grown to love myself through writing it.weniger sehen